I got this from a reader who asked me to share it. Though, I usually share most problems on my Facebook wall but this one is so interesting I decided to bring it here to get your advice/opinions on this issue. Read below and drop your advice below...
Dear Chi-Chi Nwa'Africa,
Please I need your advice. My husband is the dearest thing in this world I've ever had! He's so different from most other guys: intelligent, funny, handsome, very muscular and well-built, and is an amazing person. He's also extremely playful. And I love him so much for all these. But there's this part I don't really enjoy: he makes some demands I'm not comfortable with.
The two main ones are these: most mornings when we wake up from sleep he would insist we should kiss deeply with our unbrushed "smelly" mouths. The few times I agree, I don't enjoy it at all! Our mouths usually taste very sour then! I can never understand why he likes it but he says his love for me far exceeds my unbrushed mouth! Also when we're eating, he would tell me to pour food I'm chewing in my mouth into his own mouth, even when my saliva has made it so wet and yucky!
Sometimes he just wants me to put plain saliva from my mouth into his own! And he would say it's the same thing that happens when we kiss, but to me they're VERY different. And funny enough, the few times I agree to do these things, he would end up with a very very huge erecti*n and we would end up... But the problem is, when I don't agree, he would say I'm not interested in improving our intimacy, that I'm the only person in this world he can do them with yet I'm denying him the pleasure.
The truth is, I don't think I'll ever be comfortable with these things. Please what should I do??? Does my agreeing to do these things really build our intimacy?
Hmmm,,if they is love btw u guys then discuss what u don't like with him because true love is respectful....
ReplyDeleteD guy is obviously a very different guy who loves to express his love in a different way. I guess that's what marriage is all about. If he does so many good things and dis is d only bad one, then my sister u go bear am o. U can't have it all good. Hmmm! "Uwaifo don talk e own o".
ReplyDeleteMy sister try bear am o bfor he grabz another girl that's ready to do that for him all d time
ReplyDeleteLove is not one sided....both party needs to feel it sweetness....
DeleteGood and see a marriage counselor
ReplyDeleteAm hear for her...#wink
DeleteYou are hear for her for what brothe cos don't understand u
DeleteHmmmm,sounds weird to me, I think they need dialog, d early morning kiss, nothing really bad, if he sees u naked,then kissing ur smelly mouth is nothing, but ds food own.......we hv different love languages, and ds guy's language is physical touch,he is ur husband, don't hide from him, tell him what u r comfortable with, am sure he will understand,
ReplyDeleteObinna,our love languages re different, ur own might b act of service, quality time, physical touch,words of affirmation and receiving gifts,these re d basic five love languages, most women wants to hear u say how much u love dem,dey want u to compliment them,dt is words of affirmation, and u will findout that ds people dt wants to hear d compliments do same, our love languages differ,so ds guy's is physical touch,and know this most people eexhibit more than 2-3love languages,my love language is different from my hubby's, so it needs balancing
ReplyDeleteDo it wit as far u didn't lose ur man to another prostitute ok,
ReplyDeleteHmmm this one strong is true not everybody we take that de guy is demanding still yet I see nothing wrong with that if truly you love you man that shouldn't be a proble to her
ReplyDeleteI don't think is bad just endure for sometime then you can now express your feelings to him. This shouldn't be a big problem to me i think the guy loves you
ReplyDeletePrimitive na somebody sweetheart,dirty girl na somebody wife,dis kind of man na ur sweetheart,someday he would ask u to fart into his face,sso he could perceive d smell of love!Love is a Beautiful thing ma dear.
ReplyDeleteClement ooooo!Olovo u hear am so,
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